You should write letters to your children and you should start doing it now.
Even if they haven’t been born yet. Even if they can’t read. Even if you don’t give the letter to them yet.
How often do you get a hand-written letter in the mail? When you do, is it memorable?
You would be surprised how many people keep the letters that people have written them, especially from people they care about. These are potential artifacts that can stick around for a long time.
To build a lasting legacy, your children must remember you. They must remember what you taught them. They must remember what you stood for.
But all of us are forgetful creatures.
So write letters.
Before they are born, write down your wishes and aspirations for them in letter form. Sign it. Seal it. Save it.
While they are young, write a letter on each of their birthdays. Write down how proud you are of them and your hopes for the future. Tell them you love them. Sign it. Seal it. Save it. On their 18th birthday (or some other future date) give them these letters from you, with your blessing.
When they are older, continue this tradition. Don’t just call them or text them.
If they haven’t called you in a while, write them.
If you are having trouble finding the right words, write them.
If you know they are struggling with something, write them.
It will have an impact. The words you say are more likely to be written on their hearts if they are first written by your own hand. They are more likely to be remembered.
When you are gone and your body is dust, your letters will remain. They will be there for your children to rediscover. They will be there to help them remember who they are.
And maybe, just maybe, your words will be repeated in the letters your own children will eventually write. And your legacy will be passed from generation to generation.