Foundation Father
Words are powerful. They can be used for good or for ill. Blessing or cursing. Their absence can also be felt, and fathers, in the hustle and bustle of life, sometimes forget to give our sons the vital nourishment they need. Here are things your son should hear from you often. “I love you.” You […]
When talking to your kids, sometimes silence is your best friend. Everyone wants to fill up the void of silence. It’s hard to resist the temptation to talk. This is great advice when interviewing anyone or negotiating as well. Don’t break the silence. Let the other person do it. But it can also help when […]
It’s easier to get your kids to love reading if they love books. Obviously, you should be making use of your local library, using it so much your library cards begin to melt. But it’s helpful for children to start building a library of their own. to have books of their own. To learn to […]
So many problems with our children would be solved if we walked alongside them and struggled with them. A lot of the time, we give them tasks without modeling how to do those tasks and then get mad that they don’t figure it out on their own. But there is a better way. Use everything […]
Here is one ironclad law of fatherhood: let the burden fall on you. Men were made with big shoulders and so they were made to carry a heavier load. What do I mean by this? When there is something unpleasant that needs to be done, you should be the first to start the task. You […]
Roe v. Wade enshrined into the American culture that all children were bastards. A woman had an imagined right to choose whether her baby would live, and the father had no say. This mean, from the moment of conception, that baby was fatherless. This type of cultural assumption weighs on a culture. It disfigures it. […]
Men need a mission that is greater than their relationships. If a man makes any of their relationships their primary mission, it will destroy those relationships. A man treating the happiness of a woman as his greatest purpose in life will make that woman despise him. A man treating the success of his children as […]
The never-ending work of a father is to teach his children that their actions have consequences. They might not be immediate consequences, but they will happen. This is why we spank at very early ages: to add immediate consequences to certain actions. As they get older, we hope they have internalized this to some extent, […]
Do not listen to those who quote sixty-year-old sociological studies and ignore 2,000-year-old wisdom. The former studies have an agenda and they replicate about as well as a coin toss. Their job is not to inform nor to make you a better parent. Their job is to give you a sense of superiority while you […]
Marriage is work but it is good, satisfying work. The type of work is summarized in the title given to the man: husband. It comes from the world of animal husbandry and household management. You are called to shepherd your wife. You are the leader. You are the protector. This will look different depending on […]