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Discipline

The Letter of the Law

I will never forget my 4th grade social studies teacher. She had passed out a worksheet with four questions on it. I don’t remember any of the questions, but I do know the subject was Abraham Lincoln. I thought the instructions were to answer all four questions. That’s what I though I heard. So that […]

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Leadership

Your Kids Are More Important Than Those Kids

Your household is a place your children should feel special. It is their home and no one else’s. You are their father, and no one else’s. They have a special claim on your time and resources. You have a hierarchy of obligation to follow. The wise man knows how to navigate it. Your children are […]

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Education

Societal OCD and Boys with ADHD

When I was a child, I had trouble paying attention. My knees would be bouncing constantly. I would shift in my seat to my knees, to one leg, to standing to whatever I felt like in that moment. (I still do this when “sitting” at a desk.) I also had (and still have) some symptoms […]

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Masculinity

Friendship and Physical Affection are Dying

My son, seven years old, had not seen his friend in weeks. After church services ended, his friend was beside our pew faster than I thought possible and they both embraced in one of the most sincere hugs I have ever seen. They yelled each other’s names. They jumped up and down. Then they ran […]

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Leadership

Family Secrets are Poison

There is not much that can disrupt the health of a family more than a secret. Even seemingly innocuous ones. Men who are afraid of their wives end up keeping secrets and even worse, enlisting their children in the conspiracy. They take their kids to places unapproved by their mother and tell them to keep […]

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Masculinity

The Sabotage of Samson

Samson was one of the first superheroes. Possessed of both wit and strength, he confounded his enemies with riddles and performed super-human feats of violence. He killed a lion with his bare hands. He killed thirty men at one time all by himself. He caught 300 foxes, tied them in pairs by their tails, fastening […]

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Leadership

You can Say “Because I Said So”

It is trendy to be against saying “Because I said so” to your children. You don’t want to come across as wielding arbitrary authority. You don’t want them to blindly accept authority. You don’t want to raise peons. But authority is built into the world. It’s how God made it, starting from Him and flowing […]

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Masculinity

The Bible is a Dangerous Book

People think the Bible is boring. I was talking to another man one time, explaining my process of teaching the Old Testament and getting people to dig deeper. At one point, he looked at me in surprise and said “It sounds like you are talking about The Lord of the Rings or something.” This is […]

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Leadership

The One Way to Lift Up Other Fathers

Modern society hates fathers. It tears us down at every chance it gets. Fathers are always the butt of jokes and they are always being emasculated in modern media. The idea of honoring one’s father is laughable. Even though we have a day to do so, Father’s Day, it simply doesn’t have the gravitas or […]

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Legacy

The Real Blessing of Adult Sons

Psalm 127:3-5 is oft-quoted when talking about children. Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,The fruit of the womb is a reward.Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,So are the children of one’s youth.How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; But the last half of verse five is rarely […]