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Discipline

When Apathy Leads to Anger

If you are getting angry at your children, it’s your fault. Every time. All of the time. If they are doing something you find annoying, or that causes you to lose your patience, who do you have to blame? Who has let them get away with it over and over in the past? You. This […]

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Discipline Leadership

Pulling a Solomon

A dispute arose between two prostitutes over a child. Each claimed the child was hers and it was one woman’s word against the other. The case traveled all the way up to Solomon, the wise king. In his wisdom, Solomon said “Bring me a sword. We will divide the child and give each one half.” […]

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Discipline Education

10 Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Children

This is from the excellent book by Anthony Esolen. 1.┬áKeep your children indoors as much as possible. A child weighed down by busywork (homework), endlessly distracted by flashing screens, will find the outdoors boring. And so they will find life boring. As a consequence, they will *be* boring. If they spend too much time outside, they […]

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Masculinity

Do or Die Moments

Every boy needs a “do or die” moment to consider himself a man. His confidence depends upon it. This is one reason why rites of passages are so important. Each one of these moments prepares a man for the next one, and then the next one, and the next one. Strength and experience increase. It […]

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Legacy

A Garden Untended is Not a Garden

Many fathers don’t tend to the garden of their family and then get mad when it doesn’t bear any fruit. Years of neglect, and they are surprised at the thorns and thistles that greet them. The sluggard does not plow in the autumn; he will seek at harvest and have nothing. Proverbs 20:4 Children are […]

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Education

What to Do When Your Kids Won’t Answer Questions

Whenever we ask our kids a question, whenever we try to get them to open up, there are two dreaded responses: Silence “I don’t know.” When this keeps happening, we should first check that we aren’t asking boring questions. Or that we are asking questions that deserve to be asked. They need to be worth […]

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Masculinity

They Might as Well be Orphans

You can tell when a little boy has had no masculine influence in his life. When I take my kids to parks that contain lots of other children, these emasculated boys stick out like a tone-deaf singer in a choir. After you know what to look for, that is. A boy who has been raised […]

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Discipline Education

The Lowest Stakes Imaginable

My kids were playing hide and seek at the park with another boy. A few rounds had gone by, and it was my youngest son’s turn to be “it.” He counted and found the other boy fast. But he had some trouble finding his older sister. After a few minutes, the boy tempted him. “I […]

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Education

Don’t Assume They Know

Sometimes, we have to slow down and remember that our kids are just kids. When we teach them something, we are coming from a position of experience and knowledge. It’s hard to go back to the beginner’s mind and speak from foundational principles. What words do we need to define? What concepts do we need […]

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Discipline

Require Excellence

As your children grow and you begin to give them jobs, you will quickly find yourself in several predicaments. They won’t want to do the job. This is handled by discipline and standing your ground. They get punished if they don’t do it or if they constantly whine about doing it. Period. But the other […]

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