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Discipline

“I can’t be around you right now.”

You should enjoy your children’s company. It is a father’s privilege to take joy in his children. But many don’t, because they find their children annoying. Or, they are tired of their children’s misbehaving. And guess whose fault that is? The father’s, of course. If you find your kids annoying, you haven’t spanked them consistently. […]

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Discipline Leadership

Lessons from a Passive Father

This is a true story. One father stood at the checkout counter with his wife and daughter. He had his card out, ready to pay, but the daughter kept whining for a stuffed animal that was close to the register. Exasperated after saying “no” several times, the wife grabbed the stuffed animal and had the […]

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Legacy

Mimic Your Child’s Excitement

Your children approach you over and over to show you something. They are proud. They are excited. They want to share these emotions with you. So get excited for them. Be proud with them. Laugh at the comic just drew. Say you love the drawing they brought to show you. That impromptu LEGO sculpture? Say […]

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Discipline

Helping Your Children Face Their Fears

At a theme park, my son refused to ride a certain ride. A ride that I know he would love. While we waited in line, tears kept coming to his eyes as his anxiety grew. But he was not going to get out of it. I knew he would like it. I knew it wouldn’t […]

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Education

The Reality of a Child’s Imagination

My youngest son, 6 years old, held back tears. I could tell he was upset. “What’s wrong?” He held three superhero toys in his hands. “I’m trying not to cry but I forgot what I was going to do!” And then the tears flowed. He was going to play with his toys and enact some […]

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Education

Deflating the Bubble Around Your Kids

You can’t let your kids live in a bubble. Eventually, it will be popped by something beyond your control and they will have to deal with the outside world. If your children need to walk around with a fainting couch, just in case they hear someone use a bad word, you have failed as a […]

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Discipline Masculinity

Fix Your Own Face

Being a man means doing the right thing even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you know you will suffer. And not complaining about it. This becomes an issue when problems are unexpected. If you have reserved your time for something, you treat it as your time, and any imposition upon that time […]

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Masculinity

Be Like the Unicorn

You should be able to have a conversation with anybody. If you think you are high above a certain class of people, or that you think thoughts too grave and mighty for the peasants, you’ll come off as an insufferable boor. And worse, you’ll attribute your unpopularity to your imagined greatness instead of your very […]

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Education Masculinity

Book Recommendations from 2021

I read over 50 books last year. These are the 5 every father should read. 1. The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis This is a repeat read for me and it will continue to be in a constant rotation. Lewis understands human behavior and the little justifications we have for our monstrous sin. I’m fond […]

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Legacy

Just Say “Yes”

“Yes” should be your default answer whenever your children ask you to do something. They want you to play a game? Yes. They want you to go outside? Yes. They want to jump on your back and have you run up and down the hall? Yes. They want you to catch them as they jump […]

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