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Masculinity

Do or Die Moments

Every boy needs a “do or die” moment to consider himself a man. His confidence depends upon it. This is one reason why rites of passages are so important. Each one of these moments prepares a man for the next one, and then the next one, and the next one. Strength and experience increase. It […]

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Masculinity

They Might as Well be Orphans

You can tell when a little boy has had no masculine influence in his life. When I take my kids to parks that contain lots of other children, these emasculated boys stick out like a tone-deaf singer in a choir. After you know what to look for, that is. A boy who has been raised […]

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Masculinity

What Makes a Good Friend

While there are many attributes that a “good friend” will have, there is one that is critical. A lack of envy. A willingness to rejoice when others rejoice. When you have good news, you know exactly who you want to tell, because they let you be excited and they don’t try to one-up you. “Oh […]

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Leadership Masculinity

How to Cultivate Gravitas

Gravitas means you have weight. People tend to conflate it with somberness and over-seriousness, but the men who have the most gravitas usually have an equal amount of charisma. Gravitas means you have responsibilities that you take seriously, but you don’t take yourself seriously. You treat things with the tone and attention they deserve. Modern […]

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Masculinity

Earning Respect From Other Men

If you want to be treated like a man, you have to act like a man. This means taking on responsibility without grumbling or complaining. And it means direct speech without any waffle words or detached irony. You aren’t owed respect. You have to earn it. I had to earn it from my father-in-law. I […]

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Masculinity

How to Protect Your Daughter from Insecurity

A girl craves male attention and validation. She seeks it out. She desires it most from her father, and a good father will provide that attention and validation. If she has a weak or absent father, she will have her confidence destroyed and her view of the world warped. Let’s walk through a common scenario […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers

If you have been blessed with sons and daughters you will have noticed the differences between them. Boys and girls are different. Those differences are glorious. Even so, until they reach a certain age, they are still just kids. They will play a lot of the same games. Even wrestle. Girls wrestle differently than boys […]

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Masculinity

Choosing Your Wife Everyday

I made the following post on Twitter: Let’s unpack that a bit. By marrying your wife, you made an active choice. But you must keep making that same active choice everyday for the rest of your life (or your spouse’s life). If you live in a loveless marriage, it doesn’t matter that you chose your […]

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Masculinity

How to Make Your Wife More Beautiful (Overnight)

If you could instantly make your wife more beautiful overnight, would you do it? A caveat: nothing about her appearance changes. But you will perceive her differently. The secret? Stop watching so much modern entertainment. It presents a false concept of what beauty is supposed to be and your wife will never measure up. Stop […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Mothers do not Know How to Attract Women

Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother. The mother will want to soften the edges of her son and try to make him what she thinks women *should* be attracted to. She wants him to be a good boy. She does not want him to be dangerous. My own mother did […]