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Masculinity

Earning Respect From Other Men

If you want to be treated like a man, you have to act like a man. This means taking on responsibility without grumbling or complaining. And it means direct speech without any waffle words or detached irony. You aren’t owed respect. You have to earn it. I had to earn it from my father-in-law. I […]

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Masculinity

How to Protect Your Daughter from Insecurity

A girl craves male attention and validation. She seeks it out. She desires it most from her father, and a good father will provide that attention and validation. If she has a weak or absent father, she will have her confidence destroyed and her view of the world warped. Let’s walk through a common scenario […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers

If you have been blessed with sons and daughters you will have noticed the differences between them. Boys and girls are different. Those differences are glorious. Even so, until they reach a certain age, they are still just kids. They will play a lot of the same games. Even wrestle. Girls wrestle differently than boys […]

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Masculinity

Choosing Your Wife Everyday

I made the following post on Twitter: Let’s unpack that a bit. By marrying your wife, you made an active choice. But you must keep making that same active choice everyday for the rest of your life (or your spouse’s life). If you live in a loveless marriage, it doesn’t matter that you chose your […]

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Masculinity

How to Make Your Wife More Beautiful (Overnight)

If you could instantly make your wife more beautiful overnight, would you do it? A caveat: nothing about her appearance changes. But you will perceive her differently. The secret? Stop watching so much modern entertainment. It presents a false concept of what beauty is supposed to be and your wife will never measure up. Stop […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Mothers do not Know How to Attract Women

Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother. The mother will want to soften the edges of her son and try to make him what she thinks women *should* be attracted to. She wants him to be a good boy. She does not want him to be dangerous. My own mother did […]

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Masculinity

The Selfishness of Showing Emotion

The attacks on “toxic masculinity” often revolve around the assumption that it is unhealthy to not vent your spleen whenever you feel like it. “Not showing emotion is weak, actually.” Real men cry. In public. And then they post on social media about how they cried in public. But this is foolishness. Masculine men do […]

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Masculinity

When Masculinity is not Masculinity

There is a way to pursue masculinity that is the opposite of masculinity. Sometimes, men will want to start working toward projecting a masculine frame, to communicate better that they are a man. This is a good thing. Whether it is becoming stronger and fit, learning a martial art, or going hunting, we should celebrate […]

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Masculinity

Do a Thirty-Day Challenge

If you want to hack your discipline and improve your productivity, make it a regular habit to do a thirty-day challenge. Discipline is a muscle and laziness is a drug. A good, time-boxed challenge works as both an exercise for your discipline and detox for your laziness. It doesn’t matter what type of challenge you […]

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Masculinity

You Do Not Define Your Identity

Our identities depend on our relationships with other people. We are not autonomous individuals, contra the founding premise of most libertarianism. From the moment we come out of the womb, we have obligations toward our parents. We don’t choose our name. We didn’t even choose to be born. We are not autonomous. We do not […]