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Staying Married

Good fathers are good husbands. How you treat your wife will be mimicked by your boys and expected by your girls. Guiding their mother is guiding one of your children’s main role models, so it is a job to take seriously. At a minimum, this means you should stay married. It is one of the […]

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Leadership Legacy

Don’t Make Your Daughter Beg for Attention

If you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. You are a father. You don’t get to coast along taking the path of least resistance. You must be intentional. Here is the problem: it’s easier to relate […]

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Focus on Your Future Grandchildren

A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, but the sinner’s wealth is laid up for the righteous. Proverbs 13:22 It is not enough to think about the future of your children. If you are not at least thinking about what you will leave your grandchildren, you are not thinking long-term enough. Why […]

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Education Legacy

The Best Habit to Build as a Father

I won’t bury the lede. Reading to your kids every night is one of the best habits to have. Start immediately after they are born, before they can hold their head up, before they can crawl, before they can read. The earlier the better. Always be reading above their own reading level. The dividends are […]

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Growing Generational Wealth

It’s hard to create a legacy without wealth. And by wealth, I mean valuable assets: real estate, investments, intellectual property, etc. A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, but the sinner’s wealth is laid up for the righteous. Proverbs 13:22 You want to be a good man. You want to leave an […]

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Where There are no Children, the House is Clean

Your life would be squeaky clean and far less complicated without kids. You could relax more. Buy some nicer furniture. Go out on more dates with your spouse. Have the weekends all to yourself. Drive a vehicle other than a minivan. Sometimes, we are tempted to think like this. Perhaps we are stressed or our […]

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Write Things Down in a Commonplace Book

Keep a commonplace book of things you want to remember. You will wish you had written it down. What is “it”? Everything that makes you go “hmmm.” Anything that strikes you as important. From books you read, podcasts you listen to, conversations you have with friends. Anything. You can use cheap notebooks. You can use […]

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Just Show Up

I scooped ice cream when I was in college. For almost two years. The customers taught me valuable lessons in customer service and the free ice cream taught me that I would never grow sick of ice cream. The most important thing I learned at this job, however, was the power of showing up. After […]

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The Real Blessing of Adult Sons

Psalm 127:3-5 is oft-quoted when talking about children. Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,The fruit of the womb is a reward.Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,So are the children of one’s youth.How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; But the last half of verse five is rarely […]

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The Legacy of Jonadab

In Jeremiah 35, we learn of the Rechabites. Jeremiah offers them some wine, and they say: We will drink no wine, for Jonadab the son of Rechab, our father, commanded us, ‘You shall not drink wine, neither you nor your sons forever. You shall not build a house; you shall not sow seed; you shall not plant […]