Foundation Father
It’s normal for a man to be ambivalent toward kids, to not seek out their company or avoid them. In fact, we look with suspicion at childless men who like to spend time around children. And rightly so. If you don’t like kids, there’s nothing wrong with you. Until I had my own kids, I […]
Words are powerful. They can be used for good or for ill. Blessing or cursing. Their absence can also be felt, and fathers, in the hustle and bustle of life, sometimes forget to give our sons the vital nourishment they need. Here are things your son should hear from you often. “I love you.” You […]
Roe v. Wade enshrined into the American culture that all children were bastards. A woman had an imagined right to choose whether her baby would live, and the father had no say. This mean, from the moment of conception, that baby was fatherless. This type of cultural assumption weighs on a culture. It disfigures it. […]
Your children approach you over and over to show you something. They are proud. They are excited. They want to share these emotions with you. So get excited for them. Be proud with them. Laugh at the comic just drew. Say you love the drawing they brought to show you. That impromptu LEGO sculpture? Say […]
“Yes” should be your default answer whenever your children ask you to do something. They want you to play a game? Yes. They want you to go outside? Yes. They want to jump on your back and have you run up and down the hall? Yes. They want you to catch them as they jump […]
Children learn to speak to themselves based on how their parents speak to them. They are mimickers. Actually, we are all mimickers in some fashion, but children even more so. They will repeat what they hear. They will believe what you say. And what is “thinking,”, if not talking to yourself or having an argument […]
We are so busy doing things for our children that we risk never stopping to recognize what they are doing for us. Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warriorare the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills […]
Many fathers don’t tend to the garden of their family and then get mad when it doesn’t bear any fruit. Years of neglect, and they are surprised at the thorns and thistles that greet them. The sluggard does not plow in the autumn; he will seek at harvest and have nothing. Proverbs 20:4 Children are […]
Good fathers are good husbands. How you treat your wife will be mimicked by your boys and expected by your girls. Guiding their mother is guiding one of your children’s main role models, so it is a job to take seriously. At a minimum, this means you should stay married. It is one of the […]
If you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. You are a father. You don’t get to coast along taking the path of least resistance. You must be intentional. Here is the problem: it’s easier to relate […]