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Leadership

Don’t Trust Netflix With Your Children

Your discernment is not allowed to take a vacation. As a father, you cannot let down your guard. It is literally part of your job to always be paying attention. The biggest way a father can abdicate his responsibility is with the entertainment his children consume. We want shortcuts. We want well-laid-out rules so we […]

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Education Leadership

No Auto-Pilot for Parenting

In Xenophon’s Oeconomicus, Socrates is getting a farming lesson from Ischomachus, an estate manager held in high regard. Socrates says that if you don’t know what the soil is capable of growing, how do you know what to plant or sow? Ischomachus gives a straightforward answer. …you can tell by looking at the crops and […]

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Discipline Leadership

Empathy and Immaturity

“Empathy” is a relatively new word. It came about in the early 20th century. It is nowhere found in the Bible. While there may have been good intentions behind the word, today it has been weaponized by the immature. A family that values inclusiveness will always attempt to appease its most ornery members. Criticism is […]

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Leadership

Deflating the Balloon

One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a leader is to claw back the responsibility you have delegated to another. You nitpick what they are doing because it isn’t done exactly how you would do it. You hover over their shoulder. You leave no room for natural learning and as a result, you […]

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Leadership

Words That Live in the Bones

I remember some of the most random things from my childhood. Some moments of shame. Some filled with hilarity. Some with poignant melancholy. And some that teach an important lesson. When I was 9 or 10, my family spent the evening at the home of some family friends. Oreos were on the menu for dessert. […]

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Leadership

Your Kids Are More Important Than Those Kids

Your household is a place your children should feel special. It is their home and no one else’s. You are their father, and no one else’s. They have a special claim on your time and resources. You have a hierarchy of obligation to follow. The wise man knows how to navigate it. Your children are […]

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Leadership

Family Secrets are Poison

There is not much that can disrupt the health of a family more than a secret. Even seemingly innocuous ones. Men who are afraid of their wives end up keeping secrets and even worse, enlisting their children in the conspiracy. They take their kids to places unapproved by their mother and tell them to keep […]

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Leadership

You can Say “Because I Said So”

It is trendy to be against saying “Because I said so” to your children. You don’t want to come across as wielding arbitrary authority. You don’t want them to blindly accept authority. You don’t want to raise peons. But authority is built into the world. It’s how God made it, starting from Him and flowing […]

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Leadership

The One Way to Lift Up Other Fathers

Modern society hates fathers. It tears us down at every chance it gets. Fathers are always the butt of jokes and they are always being emasculated in modern media. The idea of honoring one’s father is laughable. Even though we have a day to do so, Father’s Day, it simply doesn’t have the gravitas or […]

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Leadership

5 Ways to Forge Sibling Bonds

Your children are on the same team. Teach them to act like good teammates. And more, teach them to be teammates who actually like each other. Their relationships with each other will outlast you. The bonds they forge now will be one of the key ways your legacy is transmitted. Long after you are gone, […]

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