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Discipline Leadership

Listen to Both Sides

When dealing with disputes between your children, you must listen to both sides. And never, never reward the first one to come yelling to you for help without having a firm understanding of the situation. The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. Proverbs 18:17 You will […]

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Education Leadership

Admit Your Fears

While at lunch, I asked my son about his favorite movies. I had let my kids watch Indian Jones and Last Crusade and Jurassic Park recently, with me skipping a few scenes in each. They seemed to enjoy them. After watching Jurassic Park, my middle son just sat there, shaking his head. Then he said […]

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Leadership Masculinity

How to Cultivate Gravitas

Gravitas means you have weight. People tend to conflate it with somberness and over-seriousness, but the men who have the most gravitas usually have an equal amount of charisma. Gravitas means you have responsibilities that you take seriously, but you don’t take yourself seriously. You treat things with the tone and attention they deserve. Modern […]

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Leadership Legacy

Don’t Make Your Daughter Beg for Attention

If you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. You are a father. You don’t get to coast along taking the path of least resistance. You must be intentional. Here is the problem: it’s easier to relate […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers

If you have been blessed with sons and daughters you will have noticed the differences between them. Boys and girls are different. Those differences are glorious. Even so, until they reach a certain age, they are still just kids. They will play a lot of the same games. Even wrestle. Girls wrestle differently than boys […]

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Leadership

Love is not Inclusive

Love creates boundaries. It sets up exclusionary relationships. Diversity and inclusion are hounded as the empathetic thing to focus on, but they end up compromising the organism’s immune system. Love demands that you put your child first. You place them before children you might meet on the street or even the other neighborhood kids. Your […]

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Leadership

Ask Them to Teach

Are you having problems connecting with your children? You may have tried to take one out for lunch or take one for a walk, and they remained silent most of the time. Monosyllabic. Sometimes companionable silence can be a good thing, but it can’t be the only thing. Why does it feel like you have […]

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Leadership

Chores and Money, Identity and Obligation

Having a way for your children to work to earn money is a good way to start teaching them about how to handle money. But we need to careful. We don’t want to raise pure mercenaries. We don’t want them holding out their hand for a tip after brushing their teeth. There are different categories […]

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Leadership

Make Home Economics Redundant

The word economics spreads a wide umbrella over many concepts. Scarcity and choice, production and distribution of resources, and more. The origin of the word betrays how much we have lost, however. It comes from two Greek words. Eco – home Nomos – accounts It had to do with household management and keeping accounts of […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Mothers do not Know How to Attract Women

Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother. The mother will want to soften the edges of her son and try to make him what she thinks women *should* be attracted to. She wants him to be a good boy. She does not want him to be dangerous. My own mother did […]