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Keep Silence

When talking to your kids, sometimes silence is your best friend. Everyone wants to fill up the void of silence. It’s hard to resist the temptation to talk. This is great advice when interviewing anyone or negotiating as well. Don’t break the silence. Let the other person do it. But it can also help when […]

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Walking Alongside Your Children

So many problems with our children would be solved if we walked alongside them and struggled with them. A lot of the time, we give them tasks without modeling how to do those tasks and then get mad that they don’t figure it out on their own. But there is a better way. Use everything […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Your Purpose Should be Bigger than Your Family

Men need a mission that is greater than their relationships. If a man makes any of their relationships their primary mission, it will destroy those relationships. A man treating the happiness of a woman as his greatest purpose in life will make that woman despise him. A man treating the success of his children as […]

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Leadership

The Main Work of Your Marriage

Marriage is work but it is good, satisfying work. The type of work is summarized in the title given to the man: husband. It comes from the world of animal husbandry and household management. You are called to shepherd your wife. You are the leader. You are the protector. This will look different depending on […]

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Education Leadership

They Want to Share Your Joy

Why do children end up liking things that we like? Because they see us experiencing joy and they want to experience that same joy. They want whatever it is you have. You are guiding their affections. You are modeling what your children will spend their time studying. The student becomes like his teacher. This is […]

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Discipline Leadership

Lessons from a Passive Father

This is a true story. One father stood at the checkout counter with his wife and daughter. He had his card out, ready to pay, but the daughter kept whining for a stuffed animal that was close to the register. Exasperated after saying “no” several times, the wife grabbed the stuffed animal and had the […]

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Discipline Leadership

Pulling a Solomon

A dispute arose between two prostitutes over a child. Each claimed the child was hers and it was one woman’s word against the other. The case traveled all the way up to Solomon, the wise king. In his wisdom, Solomon said “Bring me a sword. We will divide the child and give each one half.” […]

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Discipline Leadership

Listen to Both Sides

When dealing with disputes between your children, you must listen to both sides. And never, never reward the first one to come yelling to you for help without having a firm understanding of the situation. The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. Proverbs 18:17 You will […]

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Education Leadership

Admit Your Fears

While at lunch, I asked my son about his favorite movies. I had let my kids watch Indian Jones and Last Crusade and Jurassic Park recently, with me skipping a few scenes in each. They seemed to enjoy them. After watching Jurassic Park, my middle son just sat there, shaking his head. Then he said […]

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Leadership Masculinity

How to Cultivate Gravitas

Gravitas means you have weight. People tend to conflate it with somberness and over-seriousness, but the men who have the most gravitas usually have an equal amount of charisma. Gravitas means you have responsibilities that you take seriously, but you don’t take yourself seriously. You treat things with the tone and attention they deserve. Modern […]

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