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Leadership

The Main Work of Your Marriage

Marriage is work but it is good, satisfying work. The type of work is summarized in the title given to the man: husband. It comes from the world of animal husbandry and household management. You are called to shepherd your wife. You are the leader. You are the protector. This will look different depending on […]

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Education Leadership

They Want to Share Your Joy

Why do children end up liking things that we like? Because they see us experiencing joy and they want to experience that same joy. They want whatever it is you have. You are guiding their affections. You are modeling what your children will spend their time studying. The student becomes like his teacher. This is […]

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Discipline Leadership

Lessons from a Passive Father

This is a true story. One father stood at the checkout counter with his wife and daughter. He had his card out, ready to pay, but the daughter kept whining for a stuffed animal that was close to the register. Exasperated after saying “no” several times, the wife grabbed the stuffed animal and had the […]

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Discipline Leadership

Pulling a Solomon

A dispute arose between two prostitutes over a child. Each claimed the child was hers and it was one woman’s word against the other. The case traveled all the way up to Solomon, the wise king. In his wisdom, Solomon said “Bring me a sword. We will divide the child and give each one half.” […]

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Discipline Leadership

Listen to Both Sides

When dealing with disputes between your children, you must listen to both sides. And never, never reward the first one to come yelling to you for help without having a firm understanding of the situation. The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. Proverbs 18:17 You will […]

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Education Leadership

Admit Your Fears

While at lunch, I asked my son about his favorite movies. I had let my kids watch Indian Jones and Last Crusade and Jurassic Park recently, with me skipping a few scenes in each. They seemed to enjoy them. After watching Jurassic Park, my middle son just sat there, shaking his head. Then he said […]

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Leadership Masculinity

How to Cultivate Gravitas

Gravitas means you have weight. People tend to conflate it with somberness and over-seriousness, but the men who have the most gravitas usually have an equal amount of charisma. Gravitas means you have responsibilities that you take seriously, but you don’t take yourself seriously. You treat things with the tone and attention they deserve. Modern […]

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Leadership Legacy

Don’t Make Your Daughter Beg for Attention

If you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. You are a father. You don’t get to coast along taking the path of least resistance. You must be intentional. Here is the problem: it’s easier to relate […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers

If you have been blessed with sons and daughters you will have noticed the differences between them. Boys and girls are different. Those differences are glorious. Even so, until they reach a certain age, they are still just kids. They will play a lot of the same games. Even wrestle. Girls wrestle differently than boys […]

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Leadership

Love is not Inclusive

Love creates boundaries. It sets up exclusionary relationships. Diversity and inclusion are hounded as the empathetic thing to focus on, but they end up compromising the organism’s immune system. Love demands that you put your child first. You place them before children you might meet on the street or even the other neighborhood kids. Your […]

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