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Leadership Legacy

Don’t Make Your Daughter Beg for Attention

If you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. You are a father. You don’t get to coast along taking the path of least resistance. You must be intentional. Here is the problem: it’s easier to relate […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers

If you have been blessed with sons and daughters you will have noticed the differences between them. Boys and girls are different. Those differences are glorious. Even so, until they reach a certain age, they are still just kids. They will play a lot of the same games. Even wrestle. Girls wrestle differently than boys […]

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Leadership

Love is not Inclusive

Love creates boundaries. It sets up exclusionary relationships. Diversity and inclusion are hounded as the empathetic thing to focus on, but they end up compromising the organism’s immune system. Love demands that you put your child first. You place them before children you might meet on the street or even the other neighborhood kids. Your […]

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Leadership

Ask Them to Teach

Are you having problems connecting with your children? You may have tried to take one out for lunch or take one for a walk, and they remained silent most of the time. Monosyllabic. Sometimes companionable silence can be a good thing, but it can’t be the only thing. Why does it feel like you have […]

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Leadership

Chores and Money, Identity and Obligation

Having a way for your children to work to earn money is a good way to start teaching them about how to handle money. But we need to careful. We don’t want to raise pure mercenaries. We don’t want them holding out their hand for a tip after brushing their teeth. There are different categories […]

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Leadership

Make Home Economics Redundant

The word economics spreads a wide umbrella over many concepts. Scarcity and choice, production and distribution of resources, and more. The origin of the word betrays how much we have lost, however. It comes from two Greek words. Eco – home Nomos – accounts It had to do with household management and keeping accounts of […]

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Leadership Masculinity

Mothers do not Know How to Attract Women

Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother. The mother will want to soften the edges of her son and try to make him what she thinks women *should* be attracted to. She wants him to be a good boy. She does not want him to be dangerous. My own mother did […]

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Leadership

Reclaiming Authority as a Husband and Father

You have abdicated. You have spent years letting your children run over you. You have spent years letting your wife run over you. You have defaulted to the default. No vision. No drive. Just a hunk of flesh who earns a paycheck then lays on the couch watching TV. You never stand up to your […]

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Discipline Leadership

House Rules vs. Universal Rules

There are universal rules and there are house rules. Universal rule: do not steal. House rule: don’t put your feet up on the couch. Universal rules never change. House rules can vary from house to house, from town to town. It’s important to keep these categories straight and never conflate them. Treating house rules as […]

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Leadership

Set Clear Expectations

Be clear about your expectations. Communicate them. Explicity. Do not make assumptions. Your wife can’t read your mind. Your children can’t read your mind. It is not fair to them for you to assume, and doing so is a recipe for bitterness and resentment. Good leaders lay out their expectations clearly. In order to be […]