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Let Their No be No

Your job as a father is to let your children fail. This is the only way they will learn. You provide them a safe space for them to fail, so they come to no real harm and the consequences are minor…but fail they must. I take one of my children out to lunch once a […]

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Run the Risk of Investigation

In Mansfield Park by Jane Austen, Sir Thomas is the patriarch of the Bertram family. He is a generous man, but he is naive and a fool. These traits come back to haunt him in the closing pages of the book as shame is brought down upon his family. And he could have prevented it […]

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Empathy and Immaturity

“Empathy” is a relatively new word. It came about in the early 20th century. It is nowhere found in the Bible. While there may have been good intentions behind the word, today it has been weaponized by the immature. A family that values inclusiveness will always attempt to appease its most ornery members. Criticism is […]

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Trust is Better Than Accusation

What does it feel like when someone accuses you of lying? When you tell them something, but by default, they don’t trust you. It feels terrible. Frustrating. Humiliating. This is what your kids feel when you assume the worst. If they know you don’t trust them, why would they come to you for anything? Why […]

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The Letter of the Law

I will never forget my 4th grade social studies teacher. She had passed out a worksheet with four questions on it. I don’t remember any of the questions, but I do know the subject was Abraham Lincoln. I thought the instructions were to answer all four questions. That’s what I though I heard. So that […]

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How Your Children Are Some of Your Best Teachers

For the second time that day, I had told my daughter to stop correcting her brothers. One would mispronounce a small word and she was quick to tell him the proper way to say it. It got to the point where half of the conversation at the table was my daughter interrupting the conversation to […]

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They are but Dust

A big part of raising children is recognizing their fragile frame. They are only children. In our impatience, we can forget that. One of my favorite passages comes from Psalm 103. As a father shows compassion to his children,    so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.For he knows our frame;    he remembers that we are dust. As a father… […]

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